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Give and Take - Consent for Your Kinky Play with Katie Spataro

Within the context of BDSM, consent offers us the ability to explore and play in the realms of the shadow. But how does our individual understanding of what consent is, how it is played out or how it may shift or change within the context of a scene, enable or limit our access to exploring those realms within a safe-enough container?

How do we know when we’re on the same page as our partner and how do we minimize the potential for harm created through misunderstandings and assumptions? What is the responsibility of both the top and the bottom in the consent equation and what impacts our ability to remain within the boundaries of full consent at all times?

This workshop offers an opportunity to fine-tune your consent skills through an expanded exploration into the more radical and nuanced understandings around consent. Using Betty Martin’s “Wheel of Consent” as a framework, participants will have the opportunity to learn, practice, observe and integrate.

Through embodied practice, live BDSM demonstrations and discussion, participants will refine their understanding of consent by:
* Gaining a nuanced understanding of the nature of giving and receiving
* Differentiating between giving and doing
* Increasing one’s ability to be in full heart while giving
* Increasing one’s ability to fully receive, recognizing what brings us out of a place of receiving and how to get back there
* Decreasing the risk of consent injuries and providing a common language for communicating consent within the context of kinky play

As with all of Max's workshops, a handout will be provided to facilitate your learning and retention.

This workshop assumes no previous BDSM experience and is appropriate for all genders, all orientations, and for both tops and bottoms.

Registration fee: $25/person earlybird pricing through Friday 01/12/18, $35 thereafter. If the fee is the only reason you are unable to attend this event, please contact Max and we will make every effort to accommodate your attendance.  

About Katie

Katie is a mother, full spectrum doula, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, somatic sex educator and Holistic Pelvic Care™ practitioner. She holds the belief that sexual health, erotic education and reproductive choices are basic human rights.

In her private practice Katie utilizes ritual, touch, breath and movement to tap into the wisdom of our bodies to support our personal and collective healing. 

You can learn more about Katie by visiting her at

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